Portland boys

Portland boys are ridiculous.

My friend and I were talking last night about how guys in Portland like to ask you to "hang out" all the time, giving themselves a safe, ambiguous context in which to spend time with you without pressure. But then it makes it reallllllly confusing.

Are we friends? Are we dating? what's happening?

and then we met a man and his wife who also brought it up: likening these 'men' to "milktoast." When he asked us what we thought that term meant we said white and boring (ha!), which is can be true but he explained that it really means that they are soft. (toast being dunked in milk)

so true!

All talk and no action.

There are some who aren't passive and scared but they're already married or dating someone.... because they took initiative to ask.

Yes, flirting is fun, but at the end of the day (no pun intended) something has to come from all that flirting. Even if it is just friendly, harmless flirting and that's it. (even better, actually)

Not flirting incessantly and then sending a text the moment the girl walks away saying they should "hang out" again. What?! Why didn't you say that 2 seconds ago when we were face-to-face?

Because it's scary. I know.

I get it.

I don't want to be in the guy's position of having to ask out.

and "nowadays" it's not weird for a woman to ask a guy. But I think it has also gotten to the point that the guys expect the women to do the asking, and, Im sorry, that's not how it works. or at least not how it should work, every. single. time.

And social media has made it so easy to hide behind phones and computers that this behavior is becoming commonplace. Guys who see women frequently and regularly at the store (or restaurant or wherever) post a "missed connection" asking them out over the internet, with a chance they won't even see it or know it's meant for them, instead of asking in person when they see them next (which is probably the next day).

Grow some balls, Portlanders.

I not dealing with this b.s. anymore.